Its the Law of Abusers — A very basic, or shall I say “Law Of Abusers,” is that every kind of abuser needs a scapegoat. Be it psychopaths, serial killers, domestic abusers, or a bully, every one of these abusers needs a scapegoat to carry out or practice their abuse. Agree? Narcissists are no exception to…

It’s not rocketry — Although it’s never easy to decipher people’s thoughts and feelings, it’s also not that hard that it’s perceived as a superpower. It’s not as rocketry as you think it is. Another myth I’d like to bust before I start speaking about reading thoughts and feelings — “You have to be…

It’s what you sow that you reap — Attachment styles are the ways a person interacts with people and how they behave in relationships. Most of us have a repeating pattern in our relationships. Some of us find it hard to trust, some find it difficult to show their true emotions and some are afraid of attachments. These…

Using negativity for good is a technique — Pessimism (negative thinking) is a tendency to expect the worst out of a situation or view things through a negative lens, and considered as a big DON’T, but the psychologists disagree. The psychologists have proved that pessimism actually has mental health benefits of its own. Specifically for the patients who…

There is a great chance that you are mistaking trauma bonding with love. — We all have different definitions for love, so I better not try to add another. And we all have a good picture of what love is, so I’ll just leave it as it is and move on with what trauma bonding. Then we’ll see if you are one of those…

Because they know it’s the best trump card to control people — If you hadn’t already noticed, narcissists in general are rich. Not born rich, but made rich. Again not all of them, but most of them are rich. Why are they rich? They got the charm and skills plus, they know it’s the best trump card to control people. Okay, they’re…

Like You Miss Your Kidnapper — Is it normal for me to miss him? Huh! I’d wake up every day hoping that today would be the day that things would change. But by the end of the day, I’d be filled with despair once more. Manipulation, shame, and lying that was all I got; Gosh, I…

Before they realize it, they are back with the narcissist. — Did you know the real problem that comes while breaking up with a narcissist or any kind abuser for that matter? After having had enough of abuse and enduring all the trauma, when the victim finally decides to break free, there is a good chance that the victim actually succeeds. …

So, Can I Blame Them? — Long story short, yes, it is an illness. Does that mean one cannot hold narcissists accountable for their actions? Now, that’s not true. Although NPD is an illness, it is rather ‘descriptive’ than a ‘diagnosis’. It means that we don’t diagnose individuals with NPD, we rather say a person is…