Your Attachment Style Greatly Affects Your Relationship, Know How?
Attachment styles are the ways a person interacts with people and how they behave in relationships.
Most of us have a repeating pattern in our relationships. Some of us find it hard to trust, some find it difficult to show their true emotions and some are afraid of attachments. These issues can deeply concern you and your partner both. You might’ve tried hard to mend these faults, yet things somehow seem to go wrong and you get back to where you started.
Even with a different partner, these patterns keep repeating themselves and you end up accepting ‘That’s how I am and I can’t change it.’
You keep wondering where you got these traits from — if it’s the company, the upbringing, a trauma, or your parents?
Well, the good news is your attachment styles are not your fault and you can mend them to achieve a secure style of attachment. A person’s attachment styles whether positive or negative, are directly influenced by the style of parenting. Your early relationship with your primary caregivers (parents) decides your attachment style in adult relationships.
As children, it’s natural that we were entirely dependent on our parents or primary caregivers for all the emotional and physical support. Few parents satisfy all the needs of a child, while most children are deprived of this emotional and physical support. Few are overprotected and a few are mostly avoided. The same quality of the early relationship between a child and his caregivers decides his future attachment style.
The 4 Attachment Styles, Which One Are You?
John Bowlby’s attachment theory found that there are four adult attachment styles in people.
- Disorganized/ Fearful-Avoidant
Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style
It’s a result of hard parenting. Children whose parents hadn’t let them freely express their emotions and expect them to tackle all the emotional and physical…