Is It Wise To Marry Someone with Similar Interests?

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Sometimes, it just freaks me out how similarities between two people reach uncanny levels. It might seem superficial but believe you me, some couples can actually read each other’s thoughts. And not after a long time spent together but simply within weeks or even days.

Suppose you found such a person who can read your thoughts and is like hell matching your interests. Similar likes and dislikes, similar hobbies, similar talents, and at an extreme level, similar thought processes. Your thoughts sync in so many instances. Just wow. But would you marry him/her? Or, should you marry him/her?

If you are in a relationship with such a person, I hate to disappoint you, I’ll do it more sweetly. But don’t worry there’s always good news.

Cons of Marrying Someone With Same Interests

Do you know how they say opposites attract? Simply imagine two exactly similar pieces of a puzzle. Would they fit together? The same pieces are useless together. A piece of a puzzle would need a complementary (opposite) piece to fit together.

In psychology, there’s a term called “Complementarity”, which suggests the necessity of having different roles for each partner to achieve a happier relationship.

The idea of complementarity is to complement in terms of needs and roles.

For example, if you and your partner both share a common interest in cooking and cleaning the house but both of you hate babysitting. The temporary solution is when one of you simply understands the responsibility and takes up the job (mostly women). But when the entire responsibility is thrown up on the same partner all the time, the other one is more likely to develop dissatisfaction over time.

In the case of complementary couples, the roles are divided, when the other one cooks the other one cleans. When the other one rests, the other one babysits.

Pros of Marrying Someone with Similar Interests

To be honest, I’m writing the pros on this topic entirely out of self-interest. Because I myself chose someone with matched interests. You know what the fun part is? Remember at the beginning of the article where I…